I didn't think to take pictures while I was soldering but I just took some now to give you an idea. (Click for big)
This is what my finished connector looks like - I added hot glue to keep the connections steady.
This shows the 30 AWG wire and the pins of the EXT connector.
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Yesterday I managed to solder all 14 pins on the connector using 30 AWG wire-wrap wire. Tinning the pin and the wire just a tiny bit then soldering them seems to work well; the hard part is keeping a steady hand :P Afterwards I covered everything with hot glue and it seems to be holding well...