I agree, you get nothing without demanding it and that's sad, but this is a personal problem and not gender related.
Imagine that if suddenly, the conditions to get something weren't to demand it but to cry and talk about your feelings. That would still be a personal problem, but don't you think that in that case, women (who are encouraged by society to show their feelings and talk about them) would get an edge over men (who are taught by society that they should be tough and hide their feelings and called sissies when they don't)?
What would be the problem then? That you don't get anything without crying or talking about your feelings, or that men are taught not to do it?